Several months ago I posted a piece on Illness Etiquette, based on a post by Karen, whose husband had been recently hospitalized. She said I didn't think that this would be necessary - but it is. . .
A commenter asked:
"Thanks for this information - it's very helpful. I was wondering, though, if you have any "Do" suggestions. Most of the suggestions on the list are "Do Not" or "don't go in" or "leave when they're tired". I'm glad to know that. But when it is appropriate to visit, what should I do then?"
I started a draft, and then was stuck for some time. I was stuck in resentment, I'm sorry to say; holding tight to small wounds and thoughtlessness, all of which led to more "Don'ts".
The Probloggers How To group writing project is a good opportunity for me to push through -- how to let go of old hurts and write a How To article in one push. So:
How to visit friends who are ill; especially those struggling with chronic illness: